Forgiveness minus the drama
I ignored it when someone I barely even consider an acquaintance said I like drama. I ignored it when a commenter on my blog said I like drama. But 2 nights ago Hubs told me that I like drama after I complained about something one of my cousins said on all places, Facebook. So now I’m sitting here thinking that maybe there is some truth to that. There has to be, right? If 3 people have told me this…well I at least have to reevaluate- especially after everything that happened yesterday and how everyone came together as 1 to pray for Anissa. I’ve made some changes to my life lately. Mainly, changes to how I view certain people. The person who had me all riled up a couple months ago is now someone I’ve forgiven and actually talk to on occassion lately. And the whole issue with friends betraying you- I tried to make that right yesterday. I admit that I give into the drama that stirs online sometimes. I get involved in stuff that sometimes I shouldn’t get involved in. I was so angry with that person who ruined weeks and months and years, YES YEARS, of my life when really, I LET them do that. I LET them have that control over me. And after I forgave them…like REALLY forgave them and let it go…a huge burden was lifted off of me. I decided that if this person does or says anything else to me, I need to just laugh it off as them being pathetic and leave it at that. I have too much living to do. I have 2 babies who are my life and I need to remember that. THEY are my life. NOT these things that I let control me. I’m really going to work at NOT being a part of drama anymore since apparently I enjoy it. I had no idea that I did though. Maybe it’s not even that I enjoy it so much as I just get so emotional about everything and I let everything affect me. Either way, whatever the issue is, I’ve got to fix it. I’ve BEEN fixing it. And it’s been great.
9 Responses to “Forgiveness minus the drama”
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I don’t think you are a drama queen, I just think that you can be emotional. When emotions take over, or you get passionate about something it can seem like drama. It’s not though, always. I think you have it all right though and it’s the same thing I do. I look around and see my wonderful husband and son and know that whatever else is going on, THIS is mine and my focus is to keep us happy before anthing else. Luv ya mama.
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I don’t think you’re into drama. I think you are passionate and emotional. Just be you. That’s who we love.
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Sometimes passionate people become passionate about the wrong things. You’ve said it perfectly here … you just need to redirect that passion to the positive things in your life!
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I have been called a drama queen many times. I give into the drama in life way more than I should. There is no doubt about that. But I live my in a big way and I am overly emotional with all my emotions. Good things are Fantastic and Bad things are Earth Shattering. It is just the way I am built. I don’t let emotions go easily. I know how to be logical, but emotions are so much more human.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with being emotional and passionate as long as you don’t let it control your life.
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You are SO not a drama queen. Drama queens go out of their way to stir up trouble, insert themselves into situations that aren’t about them, and really enjoy upsetting the apple cart. That is not the Becky I have come to know over the last few months.
I think it’s safe to say almost nobody enjoys drama, but you can’t always avoid it, especially when your heart is involved. You do have a choice in how far to take it and what part you play. I read a fantastic quote years ago, and it speaks directly to what you are saying: “When you forgive, you set YOURSELF free”. That doesn’t mean you have to let the troublemakers back into your life. It just means you let go of the hurt and anger and move on. I’ve had to remind myself of that on more than one occasion lately. It’s never easy, and I think it’s great that you are dealing with your issues that way.
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OMG you are not a drama queen. Would you like me to tell you people who are???
I think it’s hard to avoid it completely though. I try really hard and have been better about it lately. Heck, I’ve even had a few haters on my site who I just deleted without a word in the past few weeks. Not worth the time, not worth the energy. Some people will always believe it is about them. We get involved, because you and I care about things very intensely. Doesn’t make either of us drama queens, just um emotional friends.
Too a man, I think any woman can be/generally is a drama queen. M…um your husband mr. no name, may not be the person to ask.
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One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn (and still haven’t perfected it) is to keep my nose out of other’s peoples crap! One of my worst traits is I LOVE gossip. I can’t help it, I do. But I try to stay as uninvolved as I can. In 2005 I got too involved in Office Drama, and even though I honestly did nothing wrong – I was fired! (asked to resign, but same difference) It was such a big wake up call.
I think anyone who can look inwards and ask themselves the questions you are asking yourself is a mature and thoughtful person, NOT a drama queen!
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I totally get what you are saying. That said even though I agree with walking away from the drama I’m not sure that forgiving is always right either. I can walk away easily but not necessarily forgive.
Good post – and no, I don’t think you are a drama queen.
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LOVE this post, Becky. I feel like you and I have a LOT in common in this department. I too am doing exactly what you just typed out here with my sister. Here’s to no more drama!
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