Number 800. Or at least it seems that way, huh? If you search crappy family member on my sidebar it’ll pull up all the previous posts where I mentioned this person. I just wanted to update y’all and tell you that NOTHING HAS CHANGED. Nothing. We went 7 weeks without talking because I finally told this person how I felt about their actions. Instead of wanting to discuss it, they got mad at me, told me I’m too critical (which I am. I can admit that) and hung up on me -we went 7 weeks without talking. After the 7 weeks, I emailed that person and told them that this whole not talking is bull and I want us to get along but I want THEM to realize that they’re at fault too and that the whole not caring about their mother or my kids or their other nieces/nephews is ridiculous. That nothing in this world is worth cutting ties with your nieces/nephews because of a few hang ups you have with their parents. This person is mad at me for something I did IN HIGH SCHOOL. Mad at their mother for things she said/did to her when SHE was in high school. This person is in their late mid 20′s now. I just don’t get how you can go on as an adult and continue to blame people for your fuck ups. It just doesn’t make sense to me. I’ve had some pretty crappy things happen to me in my life and yet I don’t sit here and use those things as an excuse to treat people like shit and do my own thing all the while thinking that I won’t pay the price because everyone owes me. This is how this person thinks. Truly. And it’s sad. Especially when OTHER family members ask me what the hell this person’s problem is and why they’re so mean. I never have an answer because I’m not like that. Anyway, me and that person are talking again but only because of me and an email I sent. That person called me and I thought ok, they get it. They really got what I said in my email. Things are going to be different. I was so happy. WRONG. Every phone call has continued to be totally self centered. That person only calls me STILL to talk about themselves and their life and has yet to ask about my girls or Hubs or heck, even me. The last time we talked before the hang up that person told me that they can’t care about my life because it brings back bad memories of her childhood. I almost laugh at that. I’ve told her a few times that they’re missing out on being a part of these kid’s lives because of their stupid hang ups. I thought that would change after I spelled it out to them. It didn’t. So now I’ve been hitting ignore on my phone when they call. I tell them that I’m tied up and I’ll call later. I am tied up when they call…but I don’t call later either. I have nothing to say to said person. It’s always about them. Always has been. That person truly does NOT care about my life or my kid’s life. Who wants to be in a relationship with someone when it’s always 1 sided? No thanks. Since this person is someone that can’t be avoided and will always be family, I’ve just accepted that they will never change and our relationship will never change. It will always be this way. When they call, I know that it will be about them and I’ll have to decide at that point if I feel like listening to them for 30 minutes or not. That’s just how it’s always going to be. I’ve accepted this. Now I can move on.

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